DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT

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Submitted by Darrell on Mon, 11/30/2015 - 22:17
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DC Burners

DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT

posting on behalf of all the signers below:

Background

The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative, inspired,
and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance together,
build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which we are able
to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical inclusion.

Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though sometimes
hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to strangers and
friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of living and loving
through physical displays of affection.

For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or a
passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these
demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are
unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and
addressed.

The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the limits
of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Burner Community is now.

Our Goal

Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists,
event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and
within the DC Burner Community to do the following:

Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent

Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic

Provide an open platform for members of the community to share their
thoughts.

Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to respond
to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the community.

Research and collect information about professional organizations and
resources that can support members of our community in times of need.

Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.

Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations,
intentional communities, and theme camps to develop their own procedures
and policies.

What We Will Not Do:

Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to) threats
of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.

Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.

Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal structures,
playing the role of judge and juror.

Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.

How You Can Help

Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if you
want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of this
dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the conversation
and how you’d like to be involved.

Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews about
the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.

Next Steps

We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of research
about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of people
will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC Burning Man
community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all to use to
share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of Radical
Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as they
pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.

As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and
resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.

We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each other,
that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is truly
accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a part of
how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building it
together.

Signed,

DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness
, Charles Planck
Darrell Duane
Debbi Arseneaux
Patty Simonton
) and DC Community Leaders, including:

Mischief DC
It's All Made Up - IAMU

Plaisance
The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop

88 DC
Meso Creso
Camp Contact
The Nut House
GlowHouse

November 19, 2015

also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on

Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.

--

*--Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)*

Washington, DC Regional Contact

(along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron
Parness)

Lead Instigator, Camp Contact

Mayor, Anahasana Village

*Helpful Links:*

DC Burners Main Website

DC Burners on Facebook

Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area

List of theme camps at Burning Man

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Mark

Mon, 11/30/2015 - 23:11

Did something happen?

Mark Brailsford

On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin" wrote:

DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT 

posting on behalf of all the signers below:

Background

The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative, inspired, and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance together, build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which we are able to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical inclusion.

Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of living and loving through physical displays of affection.

For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or a passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and addressed.

The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the limits of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Burner Community is now.

Our Goal

Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists, event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and within the DC Burner Community to do the following:

Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent

Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic

Provide an open platform for members of the communit
y to share their thoughts.

Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to respond to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the community.

Research and collect information about professional organizations and resources that can support members of our community in times of need.

Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.

Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations, intentional communities, and theme camps to devel
op their own procedures and policies.

What We Will Not Do:

Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to) threats of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.

Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.

Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal structures, playing the role of judge and juror.

Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.

How You Can Help

Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the conversation and how you’d like to be involved.

Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews about the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.

Next Steps

We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of research about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of people will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC Burning Man community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all to use to share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of Radical Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as they pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.

As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.

We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building it together.

Signed,

DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness, Charles Planck Darrell Du
ane Debbi Arseneaux Patty Simonton) and DC Community Leaders, including:

Mischief DC
It's All Made Up - IAMU
Plaisance
The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
88 DC
Meso Creso
Camp Contact
The Nut House
GlowHouse

November 19, 2015

also at:  http://dcburners.org/consent  and on 

Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.

--

--Spacious  (aka Darrell Duane)

Washington, DC Regional Contact

(along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron Parness)

Lead Instigator, Camp Contact

Mayor, Anahasana Village

Helpful Links:

DC Burners Main Website

DC Burners on Facebook

Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area

List of theme camps at Burning Man 

MP

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 01:00

Wow. Not that I've heard of.

> On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote:
>
> Did something happen?
>
> Mark Brailsford
>
>
>
>
> On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin" wrote:
>
>> DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT
>> posting on behalf of all the signers below:
>> Background
>> The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative, inspired, and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance together, build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which we are able to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical inclusion.
>> Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of living and loving through physical displays of affection.
>> For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or a passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and addressed.
>> The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the limits of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Burner Community is now.
>> Our Goal
>> Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists, event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and within the DC Burner Community to do the following:
>> Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent
>> Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic
>> Provide an open platform for members of the communit y to share their thoughts.
>> Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to respond to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the community.
>> Research and collect information about professional organizations and resources that can support members of our community in times of need.
>> Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.
>> Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations, intentional communities, and theme camps to devel op their own procedures and policies.
>>
>> What We Will Not Do:
>> Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to) threats of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.
>> Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.
>> Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal structures, playing the role of judge and juror.
>> Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.
>> How You Can Help
>> Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the conversation and how you’d like to be involved.
>> Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews about the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.
>>
>> Next Steps
>> We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of research about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of people will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC Burning Man community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all to use to share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of Radical Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as they pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.
>> As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.
>> We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building it together.
>> Signed,
>> DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness, Charles Planck Da rrell Du ane Debbi Arseneaux Patty Simonton) and DC Community Leaders, including:
>> Mischief DC
>> It's All Made Up - IAMU
>> Plaisance
>> The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
>> 88 DC
>> Meso Creso
>> Camp Contact
>> The Nut House
>> GlowHouse
>> November 19, 2015
>> also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on
>> Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.
>>
>> --
>> --Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)
>>
>> Washington, DC Regional Contact
>>
>> (along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron Parness)
>> Lead Instigator, Camp Contact
>>
>> Mayor, Anahasana Village
>>
>>
>> Helpful Links:
>>
>> DC Burners Main Website
>>
>> DC Burners on Facebook
>> Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area
>>
>> List of theme camps at Burning Man
> --
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emilytess21

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 07:43

I don't think that it matters if there were violations of consent or not. I
think that we should instead be asking what we can do to help facilitate
the conversations and teach those who may not understand the concept of
consent, and recognize those who violate consent and offer their victims
support. Proactive efforts are better than reactive, albeit reactive is
better than no effort at all.

Thank you DC folks for bringing this important discussion to the table.
On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 1:00 AM MP wrote:

> Wow. Not that I've heard of.
>
> On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote:
>
> Did something happen?
>
> Mark Brailsford
>
>
>
>
> On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin"
> wrote:
>
> DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT
>>
>> posting on behalf of all the signers below:
>>
>> Background
>>
>> The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative, inspired,
>> and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance together,
>> build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which we are able
>> to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical inclusion.
>>
>> Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though
>> sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to
>> strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of
>> living and loving through physical displays of affection.
>>
>> For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or a
>> passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these
>> demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are
>> unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and
>> addressed.
>>
>> The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the limits
>> of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Burner Community is now.
>>
>> Our Goal
>>
>> Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists,
>> event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and
>> within the DC Burner Community to do the following:
>>
>> Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent
>>
>> Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic
>>
>> Provide an open platform for members of the communit y to share their
>> thoughts.
>>
>> Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to respond
>> to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the community.
>>
>> Research and collect information about professional organizations and
>> resources that can support members of our community in times of need.
>>
>> Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.
>>
>> Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations,
>> intentional communities, and theme camps to devel op their own procedures
>> and policies.
>>
>>
>> What We Will Not Do:
>>
>> Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to) threats
>> of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.
>>
>> Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.
>>
>> Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal
>> structures, playing the role of judge and juror.
>>
>> Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.
>>
>> How You Can Help
>>
>> Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if
>> you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of
>> this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the
>> conversation and how you’d like to be involved.
>>
>> Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews
>> about the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.
>>
>>
>> Next Steps
>>
>> We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of research
>> about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of people
>> will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC Burning Man
>> community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all to use to
>> share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of Radical
>> Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as they
>> pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.
>>
>> As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and
>> resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.
>>
>> We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each
>> other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is
>> truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a
>> part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building
>> it together.
>>
>> Signed,
>>
>> DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness
>> , Charles Planck
>> Da rrell Du ane
>> Debbi Arseneaux
>> Patty Simonton
>> ) and DC Community Leaders,
>> including:
>>
>> Mischief DC
>> It's All Made Up - IAMU
>>
>> Plaisance
>> The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
>>
>> 88 DC
>> Meso Creso
>> Camp Contact
>> The Nut House
>> GlowHouse
>>
>> November 19, 2015
>>
>> also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on
>>
>> Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.
>>
>>
>>
>> --
>>
>> *--Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)*
>>
>> Washington, DC Regional Contact
>>
>>
>> (along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron
>> Parness)
>>
>> Lead Instigator, Camp Contact
>>
>> Mayor, Anahasana Village
>>
>> *Helpful Links:*
>>
>> DC Burners Main Website
>>
>> DC Burners on Facebook
>>
>> Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area
>>
>>
>> List of theme camps at Burning Man
>>
>>
>> --
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>
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lidz26

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 08:03

Agree w/ Emily - we should be proactive. It's an important topic - and one
with confusing blurry lines within our open community of incredibly
clique'y friends!

But I'm mostly stoked that someone brought back the DCBurner.org list!
Please assault my inbox with 2009 vengeance! This is completely consentual!

On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 7:43 AM, emilytess21
wrote:

> I don't think that it matters if there were violations of consent or not.
> I think that we should instead be asking what we can do to help facilitate
> the conversations and teach those who may not understand the concept of
> consent, and recognize those who violate consent and offer their victims
> support. Proactive efforts are better than reactive, albeit reactive is
> better than no effort at all.
>
> Thank you DC folks for bringing this important discussion to the table.
> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 1:00 AM MP wrote:
>
>> Wow. Not that I've heard of.
>>
>> On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote:
>>
>> Did something happen?
>>
>> Mark Brailsford
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin"
>> wrote:
>>
>> DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT
>>>
>>> posting on behalf of all the signers below:
>>>
>>> Background
>>>
>>> The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative,
>>> inspired, and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance
>>> together, build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which
>>> we are able to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical
>>> inclusion.
>>>
>>> Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though
>>> sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to
>>> strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of
>>> living and loving through physical displays of affection.
>>>
>>> For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or
>>> a passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these
>>> demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are
>>> unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and
>>> addressed.
>>>
>>> The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the
>>> limits of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Burner Community is
>>> now.< /p>
>>>
>>> Our Goal
>>>
>>> Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists,
>>> event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and
>>> within the DC Burner Community to do the following:
>>>
>>> Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent
>>>
>>> Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic
>>>
>>> Provide an open platform for members of the commun it y to share their
>>> thoughts.
>>>
>>> Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to
>>> respond to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the
>>> community.
>>>
>>> Research and collect information about professional organizations and
>>> resources that can support members of our community in times of need.
>>>
>>> Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.
>>>
>>> Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations,
>>> intentional communities, and theme camps to devel op their own procedures
>>> and policies.
>>>
>>>
>>> What We Will Not Do:
>>>
>>> Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to)
>>> threats of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.
>>>
>>> Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.
>>>
>>> Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal
>>> structures, playing the role of judge and juror.
>>>
>>> Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.
>>>
>>> How You Can Help
>>>
>>> Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if
>>> you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of
>>> this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the
>>> conversation and how you’d like to be involved.
>>>
>>> Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews
>>> about the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.
>>>
>>>
>>> Next Steps
>>>
>>> We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of
>>> research about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of
>>> people will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC
>>> Burning Man community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all
>>> to use to share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of
>>> Radical Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as
>>> they pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.
>>>
>>> As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and
>>> resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.
>>>
>>> We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each
>>> other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is
>>> truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a
>>> part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building
>>> it together.
>>>
>>> Signed,
>>>
>>> DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness
>>> , Charles Planck
>>> Da rrell Du ane
>>> Debbi Arseneaux
>>> Patty Simonton
>>> ) and DC Community Leaders,
>>> including:
>>>
>>> Mischief DC
>>> It's All Made Up - IAMU
>>>
>>> Plaisance
>>> The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
>>>
>>> 88 DC
>>> Meso Creso
>>> Camp Contact
>>> The Nut House
>>> GlowHouse
>>>
>>> November 19, 2015
>>>
>>> also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on
>>>
>>> Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> --
>>>
>>> *--Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)*
>>>
>>> Washington, DC Regional Contact
>>>
>>>
>>> (along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron
>>> Parness)
>>>
>>> Lead Instigator, Camp Contact
>>>
>>> Mayor, Anahasana Village
>>>
>>> *Helpful Links:*
>>>
>>> DC Burners Main Website
>>>
>>> DC Burners on Facebook
>>>
>>> Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area
>>>
>>>
>>> List of theme camps at Burning Man
>>>
>>>
>>> --
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Bluekowski

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 09:06

I was one of the people who gave input into this document (there were a
large number of people -- and I was not the person who got the ball moving
on this).

I our case, I don't think there was "one big consent incident". Instead, we
have been dealing with the constant and disappointing status quo when it
comes to issues related to consent. Just like any community, we have seen
our fair share of both the good and the bad. I'd like to think our region
and our community has been better than the rest, but that's not necessarily
saying anything great. The status quo when it comes to consent is rather
inadequate.

So I think this was an effort by our regional burning man reps to spur us
on to be more proactive than we have been. I agree with Emily & Liz:
proactivity in this realm is important. And the truth is, there have been
consent violations. If we open up our eyes, they are to be seen clearly.
But I don't think there was one big thing that made our regional reps take
action. It was more looking toward a vision of a hopeful future where
everyone's boundaries are understood and respected.

With love,

Blue

On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 8:03 AM, lidz26
wrote:

> Agree w/ Emily - we should be proactive. It's an important topic - and
> one with confusing blurry lines within our open community of incredibly
> clique'y friends!
>
> But I'm mostly stoked that someone brought back the DCBurner.org list!
> Please assault my inbox with 2009 vengeance! This is completely consentual!
>
> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 7:43 AM, emilytess21
> wrote:
>
>> I don't think that it matters if there were violations of consent or not.
>> I think that we should instead be asking what we can do to help facilitate
>> the conversations and teach those who may not understand the concept of
>> consent, and recognize those who violate consent and offer their victims
>> sup port. Proactive efforts are better than reactive, albeit reactive is
>> better than no effort at all.
>>
>> Thank you DC folks for bringing this important discussion to the table.
>> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 1:00 AM MP wrote:
>>
>>> Wow. Not that I've heard of.
>>>
>>> On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote:
>>>
>>> Did something happen?
>>>
>>> Mark Brailsford
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin"
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>> DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT
>>>>
>>>> posting on behalf of all the signers below:
>>>>
>>>> Background
>>>>
>>>> The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative,
>>>> inspired, and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance
>>>> together, build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which
>>>> we are able to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical
>>>> inclusion.
>>>>
>>>> Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though
>>>> sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to
>>>> strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of
>>>> living and loving through physical displays of affection.
>>>>
>>>> For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or
>>>> a passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these
>>>> demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are
>>>> unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and
>>>> addressed.
>>>>
>>>> The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the
>>>> limits of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Bu rner Community is
>>>> now.< /p>
>>>>
>>>> Our Goal
>>>>
>>>> Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists,
>>>> event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and
>>>> within the DC Burner Community to do the following:
>>>>
>>>> Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent
>>>>
>>>> Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic
>>>>
>>>> Provide an open platf orm for members of the commun it y to share their
>>>> thoughts.
>>>>
>>>> Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to
>>>> respond to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the
>>>> community.
>>>>
>>>> Research and collect information about professional organizations and
>>>> resources that can support members of our community in times of need.
>>>>
>>>> Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.
>>>>
>>>> Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations,
>>>> intentional communities, and theme camps to devel op their own procedures
>>>> and policies.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> What We Will Not Do:
>>>>
>>>> Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to)
>>>> threats of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.
>>>>
>>>> Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.
>>>>
>>>> Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal
>>>> structures, playing the role of judge and juror.
>>>>
>>>> Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.
>>>>
>>>> How You Can Help
>>>>
>>>> Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org
>>>> if you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part
>>>> of this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the
>>>> conversation and how you’d like to be involved.
>>>>
>>>> Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews
>>>> about the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Next Steps
>>>>
>>>> We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of
>>>> research about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of
>>>> people will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC
>>>> Burning Man community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all
>>>> to use to share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of
>>>> Radical Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as
>>>> they pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.
>>>>
>>>> As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and
>>>> resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.
>>>>
>>>> We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each
>>>> other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is
>>>> truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a
>>>> part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building
>>>> it together.
>>>>
>>>> Signed,
>>>>
>>>> DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness
>>>> , Charles Planck
>>>> Da rrell Du ane
>>>> Debbi Arseneaux
>>>> Patty Simonton
>>>> ) and DC Community Leaders,
>>>> including:
>>>>
>>>> Mischief DC
>>>> It's All Made Up - IAMU
>>>>
>>>> Plaisance
>>>> The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
>>>>
>>>> 88 DC
>>>> Meso Creso
>>>> Camp Contact
>>>> The Nut House
>>>> GlowHouse
>>>>
>>>> November 19, 2015
>>>>
>>>> also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on
>>>>
>>>> Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> --
>>>>
>>>> *--Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)*
>>>>
>>>> Washington, DC Regional Contact
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> (along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron
>>>> Parness)
>>>>
>>>> Lead Instigator, Camp Contact
>>>>
>>>> Mayor, Anahasana Village
>>>>
>>>> *Helpful Links:*
>>>>
>>>> DC Burners Main Website
>>>>
>>>> DC Burners on Facebook
>>>>
>>>> Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> List of theme camps at Burning Man
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> --
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Demetrius

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 10:04

I mean - lets be real, 1 in 4 or 1 in 3 women have experienced sexual
assault in their life time and about 1 in 71 men have experienced. Even if
there was not a specific "big" incident this is damn important in working
to prevent future assaults.

On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 9:06 AM Bluekowski wrote:

> I was one of the people who gave input into this document (there were a
> large number of people -- and I was not the person who got the ball moving
> on this).
>
> I our case, I don't think there was "one big consent incident". Instead,
> we have been dealing with the constant and disappointing status quo when it
> comes to issues related to consent. Just like any community, we have seen
> our fair share of both the good and the bad. I'd like to think our region
> and our community has been better than the rest, but that's not necessarily
> saying anything great. The status quo when it comes to consent is rather
> inadequate.
>
> So I think this was an effort by our regional burning man reps to spur us
> on to be more proactive than we have been. I agree with Emily & Liz:
> proactivity in this realm is important. And the truth is, there have been
> consent violations. If we open up our eyes, they are to be seen clearly.
> But I don't think there was one big thing that made our regional reps take
> action. It was more looking toward a vision of a hopeful future where
> everyone's boundaries are understood and respected.
>
> With love,
>
> Blue
>
> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 8:03 AM, lidz26
wrote:
>
>> Agree w/ Emily - we should be proactive. It's an important topic - and
>> one with confusing blurry lines within our open community of incredibly
>> clique'y friends!
>>
>> But I'm mostly stoked that someone brought back the DCBurner.org list!
>> Please assault my inbox with 2009 vengeance! This is completely consentual!
>>
> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 7:43 AM, emilytess21
>> wrote:
>>
> I don't think that it matters if there were violations of consent or not.
>>> I think that we should instead be asking what we can do to help facilitate
>>> the conversations and teach those who may not understand the concept of
>>> consent, and recognize those who violate consent and offer their victims
>>> sup port. Proactive efforts are better than reactive, albeit reactive is
>>> better than no effort at all.
>>>
>>> Thank you DC folks for bringing this important discussion to the table.
>>>
>> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 1:00 AM MP wrote:
>>>
>> Wow. Not that I've heard of.
>>>>
>>>
>>>> On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote:
>>>>
>>>> Did something happen?
>>>>
>>>> Mark Brailsford
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin"
>>>> wrote:
>>>>
>>>> DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT
>>>>>
>>>>> posting on behalf of all the signers below:
>>>>>
>>>>> Background
>>>>>
>>>>> The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative,
>>>>> inspired, and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance
>>>>> together, build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which
>>>>> we are able to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical
>>>>> inclusion.
>>>>>
>>>>> Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though
>>>>> sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to
>>>>> strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of
>>>>> living and loving through physical displays of affection.
>>>>>
>>>>> For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch,
>>>>> or a passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these
>>>>> demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are
>>>>> unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and
>>>>> addressed.
>>>>>
>>>>> The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the
>>>>> limits of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Bu rner Community is
>>>>> now.< /p>
>>>>>
>>>>> Our Goal
>>>>>
>>>>> Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists,
>>>>> event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and
>>>>> within the DC Burner Community to do the following:
>>>>>
>>>>> Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent
>>>>>
>>>>> Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic
>>>>>
>>>>> Provide an open platf orm for members of the commun it y to share
>>>>> their thoughts.
>>>>>
>>>> Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to
>>>>> respond to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the
>>>>> community.
>>>>>
>>>>> Research and collect information about professional organizations and
>>>>> resources that can support members of our community in times of need.
>>>>>
>>>>> Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.
>>>>>
>>>> Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations,
>>>>> intentional commun ities, and theme camps to devel op their own procedures
>>>>> and policies.
>>>>>
>>>>
>>>>> What We Will Not Do:
>>>>>
>>>>> Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to)
>>>>> threats of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.
>>>>>
>>>>> Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.
>>>>>
>>>>> Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal
>>>>> structures, playing the role of judge and juror.
>>>>>
>>>>> Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.
>>>>>
>>>>> How You Can Help
>>>>>
>>>>> Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org
>>>>> if you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part
>>>>> of this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the
>>>>> conversation and how you’d like to be involved.
>>>>>
>>>>> Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews
>>>>> about the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> Next Steps
>>>>>
>>>>> We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of
>>>>> research about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of
>>>>> people will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC
>>>>> Burning Man community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all
>>>>> to use to share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of
>>>>> Radical Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as
>>>>> they pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.
>>>>>
>>>>> As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities
>>>>> and resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.
>>>>>
>>>>> We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each
>>>>> other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is
>>>>> truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a
>>>>> part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building
>>>>> it together.
>>>>>
>>>>> Signed,
>>>>>
>>>>> DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness
>>>>> , Charles Planck
>>>>> Da rrell Du ane
>>>>> Debbi Arseneaux
>>>>> Patty Simonton
>>>>> ) and DC Community Leaders,
>>>>> including:
>>>>>
>>>>> Mischief DC
>>>>> It's All Made Up - IAMU
>>>>>
>>>>> Plaisance
>>>>> The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
>>>>>
>>>>> 88 DC
>>>>> Meso Creso
>>>>> Camp Contact
>>>>> The Nut House
>>>>> GlowHouse
>>>>>
>>>>> November 19, 2015
>>>>>
>>>>> also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on
>>>>>
>>>>> Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> --
>>>>>
>>>>> *--Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)*
>>>>>
>>>>> Washington, DC Regional Contact
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> (along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron
>>>>> Parness)
>>>>>
>>>>> Lead Instigator, Camp Contact
>>>>>
>>>>> Mayor, Anahasana Village
>>>>>
>>>>> *Helpful Links:*
>>>>>
>>>>> DC Burners Main Website
>>>>>
>>>>> DC Burners on Facebook
>>>>>
>>>>> Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> List of theme camps at Burning Man
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> --
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>>>> Stop emails for this post:
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>>>
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>>>
>> --
>> art. science. love.
>>
>
>> --
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Ernie

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 10:08

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> On Dec 1, 2015, at 9:43 AM, karoline wrote:
>
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MP

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 10:27

Apologies if my comment was misinterpreted to sound like I don't feel this is an extremely important project. That was not my intent. Quite the contrary, I fully support this initiative and applaud the community for addressing it.

> On Dec 1, 2015, at 10:04 AM, Demetrius wrote:
>
> I mean - lets be real, 1 in 4 or 1 in 3 women have experienced sexual assault in their life time and about 1 in 71 men have experienced. Even if there was not a specific "big" incident this is damn important in working to prevent future assaults.
>
>> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 9:06 AM Bluekowski wrote:
>> I was one of the people who gave input into this document (there were a large number of people -- and I was not the person who got the ball moving on this).
>>
>> I our case, I don't think there was "one big consent incident". Instead, we have been dealing with the constant and disappointing status quo when it comes to issues related to consent. Just like any communit y, we have seen our fair share of both the good and the bad. I'd like to think our region and our community has been better than the rest, but that's not necessarily saying anything great. The status quo when it comes to consent is rather inadequate.
>>
>> So I think this was an effort by our regional burning man reps to spur us on to be more proactive than we have been. I agree with Emily & Liz: proactivity in this realm is important. And the truth is, there have been consent violations. If we open up our eyes, they are to be seen clearly. But I don't think there was one big thing that made our regional reps take action. It was more looking toward a vision of a hopeful future where everyone's boundaries are understood and respected.
>>
>> With love,
>>
>> Blue
>>
>>> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 8:03 AM, lidz26
wrote:
>>
>>> Agree w/ Emily - we should be proactive. It's an important topic - and one with confusing blurry lines within our open community of incredibly clique'y friends!
>>>
>>> But I'm mostly stoked that someone brought back the DCBurner.org list! Pl ease assault my inbox with 2009 vengeance! This is completely consentual!
>>
>>>> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 7:43 AM, emilytess21 wrote:
>>
>>>> I don't think that it matters if there were violations of consent or not. I think that we should instead be asking what we can do to help facilitate the conversations a nd teach those who may not understand the concept of consent, and recognize those who violate consent and offer their victims sup port. Proactive efforts are better than reactive, albeit reactive is better than no effort at all.
>>>>
>>>> Thank you DC folks for bringing this important discussion to the table.
>>
>>>>> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 1:00 AM MP wrote:
>>
>>>>> Wow. Not that I've heard of.
>>
>>>>>
>>>>> On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote :
>>>>>
>>
>>>>> Did something happen?
>>>>>
>>>>> Mark Brailsford
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>
>>>>> On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin" wrote:
>>>>>
>>
>>>>>> DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT
>>>>>> posting on behalf of all the signers below:
>>>>>> Background
>>>>>> The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative, inspired, and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance together, build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which we are able to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical inclusion.
>>>>>> Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of living and loving through physical displays of affection.
>>>>>> For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or a passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and addressed.
>>>>>> The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the limits of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Bu rner Community is now.< /p>
>>>>>> Our Goal
>>>>>> Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists, event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and within the DC Burner Community to do the following:
>>>>>> Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent
>>>>>> Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic
>>>>>> Provide an open platf orm for members of the commun it y to share their thoughts.
>>
>>>>>> Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to respond to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the community.
>>>>>> Research and collect information about professional organizations and resources that can support members of our community in times of need.
>>>>>> Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.
>>
>>>>>> Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations, intentional commun ities, and theme camps to devel op their own procedures and policies.
>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> What We Will Not Do:
>>>>>> Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to) threats of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.
>>>>>> Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.
>>>>>> Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal structures, playing the role of judge and juror.
>>>>>> Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.
>>>>>> How You Can Help
>>>>>> Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the conversation and how you’d like to be involved.
>>>>>> Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews ab out the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Next Steps
>>>>>>
>>>>>> We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of research about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of people will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC Burning Man community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all to use to share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of Radical Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as they pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.
>>>>>> As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.
>>>>>> We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building it together.
>>>>>> Signed,
>>>>>> DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness, Charles Planck Da rrell Du ane Debbi Arseneaux Patty Simonton) and DC Community Leaders, including:
>>>>>> Mischief DC
>>>>>> It's All Made Up - IAMU
>>>>>> Plaisance
>>>>>> The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
>>>>>> 88 DC
>>>>>> Meso Creso
>>>>>> Camp Contact
>>>>>> The Nut House
>>>>>> GlowHouse
>>>>>> November 19, 2015
>>>>>> also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on
>>>>>> Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> --
>>>>>> --Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Washington, DC Regional Contact
>>>>>>
>>>>>> (along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron Parness)
>>>>>> Lead Instigator, Camp Contact
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Mayor, Anahasana Village
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Helpful Links:
>>>>>>
>>>>>> DC Burners Main Website
>>>>>>
>>>>>> DC Burners on Facebook
>>>>>> Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area
>>>>>>
>>>>>> List of theme camps at Burning Man
>>>>>>
>>
>>>>>> --
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>>>>>> Manage my subscriptions: http://dcburners.org/mailinglist
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>>
>>>
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>
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> President, ABSN Class of 2016
>
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> 525 N. Wolfe Street, Baltimore, MD 21205
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Tue, 12/01/2015 - 12:23

I second lidz26@gmail.com's comments and am also very glad there is action
on this email group. As much as it's important to verbalize these
important issues it's also very important to increase the communication in
the DC scene so that the audience for this messaging is stronger.

On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 10:27 AM, MP wrote:

> Apologies if my comment was misinterpreted to sound like I don't feel this
> is an extremely important project. That was not my intent. Quite the
> contrary, I fully support this initiative and applaud the community for
> addressing it.
>
>
>
> On Dec 1, 2015, at 10:04 AM, Demetrius wrote:
>
> I mean - lets be real, 1 in 4 or 1 in 3 women have experienced sexual
> assault in their life time and about 1 in 71 men have experienced. Even if
> there was not a specific "big" incident this is damn important in working
> to prevent future assaults.
>
> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 9:06 AM Bluekowski wro te:
>
>> I was one of the people who gave input into this document (there were a
>> large number of people -- and I was not the person who got the ball moving
>> on this).
>>
>> I our case, I don't think there was "one big consent incident". Instead,
>> we have been dealing with the constant and disappointing status quo when it
>> comes to issues related to consent. Just like any communit y, we have seen
>> our fair share of both the good and the bad. I'd like to think our region
>> and our community has been better than the rest, but that's not necessarily
>> saying anything great. The status quo when it comes to consent is rather
>> inadequate.
>>
>> So I think this was an effort by our regional burning man reps to spur us
>> on to be more proactive than we have been. I agree with Emily & Liz:
>> proactivity in this realm is important. And the truth is, there have been
>> consent violations. If we open up our eyes, they are to be seen clearly.
>> But I don't think there was one big thing that made our regional reps take
>> action. It was more looking toward a vision of a hopeful future where
>> everyone's boundaries are understood and respected.
>>
>> With love,
>>
>> Blue
>>
>> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 8:03 AM, lidz26
wrote:
>>
>>> Agree w/ Emily - we should be proactive. It's an important topic - and
>>> one with confusing blurry lines within our open community of incredibly
>>> clique'y friends!
>>>
>>> But I'm mostly stoked that someone brought back the D CBurner.org
>>> list! Pl ease assault my inbox with 2009
>>> vengeance! This is completely consentual!
>>>
>> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 7:43 AM, emilytess21
>>> wrote:
>>>
>> I don't think that it matters if there were violations of consent or not.
>>>> I think that we should instead be asking what we can do to help facilitate
>>>> the conversations a nd teach those who may not understand the concept of
>>>> consent, and recognize those who violate consent and offer their victims
>>>> sup port. Proactive efforts are better than reactive, albeit reactive is
>>>> better than no effort at all.
>>>>
>>>> Thank you DC folks for bringing this important discussion to the table.
>>>>
>>> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 1:00 AM MP wrote:
>>>>
>>> Wow. Not that I've heard of.
>>>>>
>>>>
>>>>> On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote :
>>>>>
>>>>> Did something happen?
>>>>>
>>>>> Mark Brailsford
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin" >>>>> > wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>> DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT
>>>>>>
>>>>>> posting on behalf of all the signers below:
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Background
>>>>>>
>>>>>> The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative,
>>>>>> inspired, and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance
>>>>>> together, build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which
>>>>>> we are able to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical
>>>>>> inclusion.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though
>>>>>> sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to
>>>>>> strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of
>>>>>> living and loving through physical displays of affection.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch,
>>>>>> or a passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these
>>>>>> demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are
>>>>>> unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and
>>>>>> addressed.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the
>>>>>> limits of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Bu rner Community is
>>>>>> now.< /p>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Our Goal
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders,
>>>>>> artists, event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to
>>>>>> and within the DC Burner Community to do the following:
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Provide an open platf orm for members of the commun it y to share
>>>>>> their thoughts.
>>>>>>
>>>>> Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to
>>>>>> respond to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the
>>>>>> community.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Research and collect information about professional organizations and
>>>>>> resources that can support members of our community in times of need.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.
>>>>>>
>>>>> Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations,
>>>>>> intentional commun ities, and theme camps to devel op their own procedures
>>>>>> and policies.
>>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>> What We Will Not Do:
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to)
>>>>>> threats of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal
>>>>>> structures, playing the role of judge and juror.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> How You Can Help
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org
>>>>>> if you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part
>>>>>> of this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the
>>>>>> conversation and how you’d like to be involved.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews
>>>>>> ab out the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Next Steps
>>>>>>
>>>>>> We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of
>>>>>> research about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of
>>>>>> people will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC
>>>>>> Burning Man community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all
>>>>>> to use to share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of
>>>>>> Radical Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as
>>>>>> they pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities
>>>>>> and resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each
>>>>>> other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is
>>>>>> truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a
>>>>>> part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building
>>>>>> it together.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Signed,
>>>>>>
>>>>>> DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness
>>>>>> , Charles Planck
>>>>>> Da rrell Du ane
>>>>>> Debbi Arseneaux
>>>>>> Patty Simonton
>>>>>> ) and DC Community Leaders,
>>>>>> including:
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Mischief DC
>>>>>> It's All Made Up - IAMU
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Plaisance
>>>>>> The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
>>>>>>
>>>>>> 88 DC
>>>>>> Meso Creso
>>>>>> Camp Contact
>>>>>> The Nut House
>>>>>> GlowHouse
>>>>>>
>>>>>> November 19, 2015
>>>>>>
>>>>>> also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> --
>>>>>>
>>>>>> *--Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)*
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Washington, DC Regional Contact
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> (along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron
>>>>>> Parness)
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Lead Instigator, Camp Contact
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Mayor, Anahasana Village
>>>>>>
>>>>>> *Helpful Links:*
>>>>>>
>>>>>> DC Burners Main Website
>>>>>>
>>>>>> DC Burners on Facebook
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> List of theme camps at Burning Man
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
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Tue, 12/01/2015 - 16:03

Unfortunately Mark, I believe things have been happening for a while, but we're so used to using the verbiage "issues of consent" in our community, while an outsider would jump to "assault" and "sexual harassment" way sooner /c:

I'm not trying to ruffle feathers, however, I am very happy to see the whole community moving forward with a more active approach on the topic!

-lee

> On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote:
>
> Did something happen?
>
> Mark Brailsford
>
>
>
>
> On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin" wrote:
>
>> DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT
>> posting on behalf of all the signers below:
>> Background
>> The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative, inspired, and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance together, build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which we are able to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical inclusion.
>> Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of living and loving through physical displays of affection.
>> For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or a passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and addressed.
>> The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the limits of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Burner Community is now.
>> Our Goal
>> Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists, event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and within the DC Burner Community to do the following:
>> Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent
>> Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic
>> Provide an open platform for members of the communit y to share their thoughts.
>> Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to respond to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the community.
>> Research and collect information about professional organizations and resources that can support members of our community in times of need.
>> Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.
>> Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations, intentional communities, and theme camps to devel op their own procedures and policies.
>>
>> What We Will Not Do:
>> Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to) threats of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.
>> Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.
>> Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal structures, playing the role of judge and juror.
>> Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.
>> How You Can Help
>> Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the conversation and how you’d like to be involved.
>> Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews about the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.
>>
>> Next Steps
>> We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of research about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of people will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC Burning Man community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all to use to share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of Radical Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as they pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.
>> As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.
>> We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building it together.
>> Signed,
>> DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness, Charles Planck Da rrell Du ane Debbi Arseneaux Patty Simonton) and DC Community Leaders, including:
>> Mischief DC
>> It's All Made Up - IAMU
>> Plaisance
>> The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
>> 88 DC
>> Meso Creso
>> Camp Contact
>> The Nut House
>> GlowHouse
>> November 19, 2015
>> also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on
>> Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.
>>
>> --
>> --Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)
>>
>> Washington, DC Regional Contact
>>
>> (along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron Parness)
>> Lead Instigator, Camp Contact
>>
>> Mayor, Anahasana Village
>>
>>
>> Helpful Links:
>>
>> DC Burners Main Website
>>
>> DC Burners on Facebook
>> Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area
>>
>> List of theme camps at Burning Man
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Mark

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 16:13

I fully support this initiative. Let me know what I can do to help. 

Mark (Cobalt) Brailsford

On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 1:03 PM -0800, "Lee" wrote:

Unfortunately Mark, I believe things have been happening for a while, but we're so used to using the verbiage "issues of consent" in our community, while an outsider would jump to "assault" and "sexual harassment" way sooner /c:
I'm not trying to ruffle feathers, however, I am very happy to see the whole community moving forward with a more active approach on the topic!

-lee 
On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote:

Did something happen?

Mark Brailsford

On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin" wrote:

DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT 

posting on behalf of all the signers below:

Background

The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative, inspired, and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance together, build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which we are able to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical inclusion.

Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of living and loving through physical displays of affection.

For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or a passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and addressed.

The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the limits of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Burner Community is now.

Our Goal

Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists, event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and within the DC Burner Community to do the following:

Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent

Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic

Provide an open platform for members of the communit
y to share their thoughts.

Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to respond to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the community.

Research and collect information about professional organizations and resources that can support members of our community in times of need.

Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.

Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations, intentional communities, and theme camps to devel
op their own procedures and policies.

What We Will Not Do:

Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to) threats of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.

Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.

Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal structures, playing the role of judge and juror.

Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.

How You Can Help

Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the conversation and how you’d like to be involved.

Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews about the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.

Next Steps

We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of research about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of people will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC Burning Man community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all to use to share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of Radical Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as they pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.

As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.

We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building it together.

Signed,

DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness, Charles Planck Da
rrell Du
ane Debbi Arseneaux Patty Simonton) and DC Community Leaders, including:

Mischief DC
It's All Made Up - IAMU
Plaisance
The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
88 DC
Meso Creso
Camp Contact
The Nut House
GlowHouse

November 19, 2015

also at:  http://dcburners.org/consent  and on 

Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.

--

--Spacious  (aka Darrell Duane)

Washington, DC Regional Contact

(along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron Parness)

Lead Instigator, Camp Contact

Mayor, Anahasana Village

Helpful Links:

DC Burners Main Website

DC Burners on Facebook

Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area

List of theme camps at Burning Man 

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leslie

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 16:16

I hope to see a follow up that is more proactive than this statement - such
as "If you have any immediate issues or concerns regarding consent, you can
email them directly to Consent@dcburners.org."

Fingers crossed this effort won't turn into a bureaucratic issue rather
than a consent issue.

On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 4:02 PM, Lee wrote:

> Unfortunately Mark, I believe things have been happening for a while, but
> we're so used to using the verbiage "issues of consent" in our community,
> while an outsider would jump to "assault" and "sexual harassment" way
> sooner /c:
>
> I'm not trying to ruffle feathers, however, I am very happy to see the
> whole community moving forward with a more active approach on the topic!
>
> -lee
>
> On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote:
>
> Did something happen?
>
> Mark Brailsford
>
>
>
>
> On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin"
> wrote:
>
> DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT
>>
>> posting on behalf of all the signers below:
>>
>> Background
>>
>> The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative, inspired,
>> and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance together,
>> build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which we are able
>> to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical inclusion.
>>
>> Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though
>> sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to
>> strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of
>> living and loving through physical displays of affection.
>>
>> For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or a
>> passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these
>> demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are
>> unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and
>> addressed.
>>
>> The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the limits
>> of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Burner Community is now.
>>
>> Our Goal
>>
>> Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists,
>> event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and
>> within the DC Burner Community to do the following:
>>
>> Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent
>>
>> Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic
>>
>> Provide an open platform for members of the communit y to share their
>> thoughts.
>>
>> Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to respond
>> to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the community.
>>
>> Research and collect information about professional organizations and
>> resources that can support members of our community in times of need.
>>
>> Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.
>>
>> Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations,
>> intentional communities, and theme camps to devel op their own procedures
>> and policies.
>>
>>
>> What We Will Not Do:
>>
>> Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to) threats
>> of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.
>>
>> Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.
>>
>> Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal
>> structures, playing the role of judge and juror.
>>
>> Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.
>>
>> How You Can Help
>>
>> Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if
>> you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of
>> this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the
>> conversation and how you’d like to be involved.
>>
>> Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews
>> about the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.
>>
>>
>> Next Steps
>>
>> We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of research
>> about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of people
>> will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC Burning Man
>> community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all to use to
>> share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of Radical
>> Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as they
>> pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.
>>
>> As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and
>> resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.
>>
>> We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each
>> other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is
>> truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a
>> part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building
>> it together.
>>
>> Signed,
>>
>> DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness
>> , Charles Planck
>> Da rrell Du ane
>> Debbi Arseneaux
>> Patty Simonton
>> ) and DC Community Leaders,
>> including:
>>
>> Mischief DC
>> It's All Made Up - IAMU
>>
>> Plaisance
>> The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
>>
>> 88 DC
>> Meso Creso
>> Camp Contact
>> The Nut House
>> GlowHouse
>>
>> November 19, 2015
>>
>> also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on
>>
>> Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.
>>
>>
>>
>> --
>>
>> *--Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)*
>>
>> Washington, DC Regional Contact
>>
>>
>> (along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron
>> Parness)
>>
>> Lead Instigator, Camp Contact
>>
>> Mayor, Anahasana Village
>>
>> *Helpful Links:*
>>
>> DC Burners Main Website
>>
>> DC Burners on Facebook
>>
>> Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area
>>
>>
>> List of theme camps at Burning Man
>>
>>
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akistler63

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 19:39

Lee,

While I am confident that in general burners are more aware of consent and
sexual harassment, that doesn't mean that people aren't assaulted or
sexually harassed by people within the community. I think your statement is
part of the issue, and a means of covering up the issue instead of having
an open discussion about the topic. You are essentially committing the "No
True Scotsman Fallacy"
On Dec 1, 2015 4:03 PM, "Lee" wrote:

> Unfortunately Mark, I believe things have been happening for a while, but
> we're so used to using the verbiage "issues of consent" in our community,
> while an outsider would jump to "assault" and "sexual harassment" way
> sooner /c:
>
> I'm not trying to ruffle feathers, however, I am very happy to see the
> whole community moving forward with a more active approach on the topic!
>
> -lee
>
> On Nov 30, 2015, at 11:11 PM, Mark wrote:
>
> Did something happen?
>
> Mark Brailsford
>
>
>
>
> On Mon, Nov 30, 2015 at 7:17 PM -0800, "admin"
> wrote:
>
> DC BURNERS CONSENT CULTURE STATEMENT
>>
>> posting on behalf of all the signers below:
>>
>> Background
>>
>> The DC Burner Community is one of the most welcoming, creative, inspired,
>> and motivated communities in the world. We play together, dance together,
>> build art together, and actively work to create spaces in which we are able
>> to share – and spread – the ethos of compassion and radical inclusion.
>>
>> Within this community there is also a widely acknowledged, though
>> sometimes hard to explain, feeling of trust. This trust extends to
>> strangers and friends alike, and many of us freely express our joy of
>> living and loving through physical displays of affection.
>>
>> For many of us, these displays may be a long hug, an intimate touch, or a
>> passionate kiss. And within our individual circles of friends, these
>> demonstrations of affection mostly go uncontested. However, when they are
>> unwelcome, it’s important that such instances are acknowledged and
>> addressed.
>>
>> The time to bring the conversation about consent, assault, and the limits
>> of radical inclusion to the forefront of the DC Burner Community is now.
>>
>> Our Goal
>>
>> Bring together the large, diverse group of community leaders, artists,
>> event planners, theme camp organizers, and participants related to and
>> within the DC Burner Community to do the following:
>>
>> Build and fortify a culture of respect and consent
>>
>> Encourage respectful discourse on a challenging and sensitive topic
>>
>> Provide an open platform for members of the communit y to share their
>> thoughts.
>>
>> Explore and implement best practices around creating protocols to respond
>> to complaints, concerns, or questions posed by any member of the community.
>>
>> Research and collect information about professional organizations and
>> resources that can support members of our community in times of need.
>>
>> Explore methods to facilitate mediation between affected parties.
>>
>> Empower individual artistic organizations, burner organizations,
>> intentional communities, and theme camps to devel op their own procedures
>> and policies.
>>
>>
>> What We Will Not Do:
>>
>> Accept abuse in any of its guises, including (but not limited to) threats
>> of violence, acts of physical or sexual abuse, or bullying.
>>
>> Assume that one group's decisions automatically apply to all.
>>
>> Expect community groups to replace or circumvent existing legal
>> structures, playing the role of judge and juror.
>>
>> Make decisions based on rumor or hearsay.
>>
>> How You Can Help
>>
>> Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if
>> you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of
>> this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the
>> conversation and how you’d like to be involved.
>>
>> Continue to have open and honest dialogue within your camps and crews
>> about the issues of boundaries and consent. Communication is critical.
>>
>>
>> Next Steps
>>
>> We anticipate that the coming months will involve quite a bit of research
>> about best practices. We anticipate that one person or a group of people
>> will be identified to spearhead this effort within the local DC Burning Man
>> community. We also expect that we’ll set up a platform for all to use to
>> share their questions, thoughts, and concerns about the topics of Radical
>> Self Expression, Radical Inclusion, and Civic Responsibility as they
>> pertain to the DC Burning Man Community.
>>
>> As RCs, we will send out regular updates about community activities and
>> resources, and share policies as they’re distributed by various groups.
>>
>> We all want to be a community that has compassion and cares for each
>> other, that thinks about the impact our behavior has on each other, and is
>> truly accountable to each other. One that is safe for all. Want to be a
>> part of how we create that reality? Excellent. We look forward to building
>> it together.
>>
>> Signed,
>>
>> DC Regional Contacts (Aaron Mowgli Parness
>> , Charles Planck
>> Da rrell Du ane
>> Debbi Arseneaux
>> Patty Simonton
>> ) and DC Community Leaders,
>> including:
>>
>> Mischief DC
>> It's All Made Up - IAMU
>>
>> Plaisance
>> The WhyteStone Creative Outcrop
>>
>> 88 DC
>> Meso Creso
>> Camp Contact
>> The Nut House
>> GlowHouse
>>
>> November 19, 2015
>>
>> also at: http://dcburners.org/consent and on
>>
>> Facebook at the DC Burners Facebook group.
>>
>>
>>
>> --
>>
>> *--Spacious (aka Darrell Duane)*
>>
>> Washington, DC Regional Contact
>>
>>
>> (along with Debbi Arseneaux, Patty Simonton, Charles Plank and Aaron
>> Parness)
>>
>> Lead Instigator, Camp Contact
>>
>> Mayor, Anahasana Village
>>
>> *Helpful Links:*
>>
>> DC Burners Main Website
>>
>> DC Burners on Facebook
>>
>> Playa Del Fuego, Regional Burn Event for Mid-Atlantic area
>>
>>
>> List of theme camps at Burning Man
>>
>>
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simontondc

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 20:12

For those who wanted a more specific next steps, please refer to this
section of the statement:

"Contact the DC area Regional Contacts at washingtondc@burningman.org if
you want to help gather resources and if you want to be an active part of
this dialogue as it moves ahead. Let us know you want to join the
conversation and how you’d like to be involved."

Thanks!
Patty

jessienewburn

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 20:40

Take note, y'all: There is a ramping up, too, of **vicitm culture** in our
society and a thin-skin-ification all around wherein everyone's allergy,
food sensitivity, mood of the day and particular needs seem to mandate
institutional level support to ensure non-victimhood.

I *get* a thousand times over that assault ain't cool, consent is key and
our community, in its embracing of all, gets its share (or more than its
share) of people whose vibe -- and sometimes actions -- range from creepy
to outright criminal.

I get that.

I'm simply being the voice of a perspective: There has been a growing
cultural shift toward over-responding to anyone's hurt, or PERCEPTION of
hurt.

Just sayin'. Beware the culture change and keep a level head.

Jessie / Mama J

cphillips

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 20:54

Wow. I’ll take “victim culture” over rape culture any day. I can’t believe you are equating food allergies and sexual assault. We’re a long ways away as a community, much less culturally as a whole, to "over-responding" to allegations of sexual assault.

Go ahead. Just try a little groping. You’re probably not ACTUALLY allergic to rape, you just need little doses of it to desensitize yourself.

Caitlin Phillips
Rebound Designs
www.rebound-designs.com

> On Dec 1, 2015, at 8:40 PM, jessienewburn wrote:
>
> Take note, y'all: There is a ramping up, too, of **vicitm culture** in our society and a thin-skin-ification all around wherein everyone's allergy, food sensitivity, mood of the day and particular needs seem to mandate institutional level support to ensure non-victimhood.
>
> I *get* a thousand times over that assault ain't cool, consent is key and our community, in its embracing of all, gets its share (or more than its share) of people whose vibe -- and sometimes actions -- range from creepy to outright criminal.
>
> I get that.
>
> I'm simply being the voice of a perspective: There has been a growing cultural shift toward over-responding to anyone's hurt, or PERCEPTION of hurt.
>
> Just sayin'. Beware the culture change and keep a level head.
>
> Jessie / Mama J
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Dobromir

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 21:05

Thank you, Mama J!

If you are a Burner you should have to fear expressing yourself (a long hug...) and know if wanted.
If you are a Burner you should know how to handle an unwanted behavior and say 'no'.
And I get it too - assault is not cool but this is not something a Burner should ever do or he/she be part of this group.
I'm afraid of we turning to a 'political correct' group of DC people who thing a Burner makes them cool.

William/aka Dobromir

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> On Dec 1, 2015, at 8:40 PM, jessienewburn wrote:
>
> Take note, y'all: There is a ramping up, too, of **vicitm culture** in our society and a thin-skin-ification all around wherein everyone's allergy, food sensitivity, mood of the day and particular needs seem to mandate institutional level support to ensure non-victimhood.
>
> I *get* a thousand times over that assault ain't cool, consent is key and our community, in its embracing of all, gets its share (or more than its share) of people whose vibe -- and sometimes actions -- range from creepy to outright criminal.
>
> I get that.
>
> I'm simply being the voice of a perspective: There has been a growing cultural shift toward over-responding to anyone's hurt, or PERCEPTION of hurt.
>
> Just sayin'. Beware the culture change and keep a level head.
>
> Jessie / Mama J
> --
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Chris0

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 21:15

Wow. Nice rape culture apologia you got there.
Too politically correct is the first refuge of assholes.
Stay classy, and good day.

Love you guys!

On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 9:05 PM, <> wrote:

> Thank you, Mama J!
>
> If you are a Burner you should have to fear expressing yourself (a long
> hug...) and know if wanted.
> If you are a Burner you should know how to handle an unwanted behavior and
> say 'no'.
> And I get it too - assault is not cool but this is not something a Burner
> should ever do or he/she be part of this group.
> I'm afraid of we turning to a 'political correct' group of DC people who
> thing a Burner makes them cool.
>
> William/aka Dobromir
>
> Sent from my iPhone
>
> > On Dec 1, 2015, at 8:40 PM, jessienewburn
> wrote:
> >
> > Take note, y'all: There is a ramping up, too, of **vicitm culture** in
> our society and a thin-skin-ification all around wherein everyone's
> allergy, food sensitivity, mood of the day and particular needs seem to
> mandate institutional level support to ensure non-victimhood.
> >
> > I *get* a thousand times over that assault ain't cool, consent is key
> and our community, in its embracing of all, gets its share (or more than
> its share) of people whose vibe -- and sometimes actions -- range from
> creepy to outright criminal.
> >
> > I get that.
> >
> > I'm simply being the voice of a perspective: There has been a growing
> cultural shift toward over-responding to anyone's hurt, or PERCEPTION of
> hurt.
> >
> > Just sayin'. Beware the culture change and keep a level head.
> >
> > Jessie / Mama J
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monster

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 22:59

The starting point is this. YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO TOUCH ME WITHOUT MY
CONSENT. This is actually the law - ANY unconsented to touching is
ASSAULT, and a crime (in some cases consent is implied, for example if you
are playing sports, you are consenting to contact w/in the boundaries of
the game, but you are not consenting contact outside of that, like a punch
in the face during a football game).

As it happens, I often dont want to be hugged or touched by strangers. When
I was at Catharsis, one of the Veterans there asked me very politely if it
would be ok if he gave me a hug. I said sure. I actually thought, wow, that
was nice. (and that this guy could teach some burners a thing or two about
consent.)

Of course, I am not equating unwanted hugs with rape (this shouldn't need
to be said, but i'm afraid it might). But the idea that someone else gets
to, or should be able to, decide whether they can touch my body, not me,
creates a slippery slope...and pisses me off.

This isn't about being "PC," this is about respecting my bodily integrity.

On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 9:15 PM, Chris0 wrote:

> Wow. Nice rape culture apologia you got there.
> Too politically correct is the first refuge of assholes.
> Stay classy, and good day.
>
> Love you guys!
>
> On Tue, Dec 1, 2015 at 9:05 PM, <> wrote:
>
>> Thank you, Mama J!
>>
>> If you are a Burner you should have to fear expressing yourself (a long
>> hug...) and know if wanted.
>> If you are a Burner you should know how to handle an unwanted behavior
>> and say 'no'.
>> And I get it too - assault is not cool but this is not something a Burner
>> should ever do or he/she be part of this group.
>> I'm afraid of we turning to a 'political correct' group of DC people who
>> thing a Burner makes them cool.
>>
>> William/aka Dobromir
>>
>> Sent from my iPhone
>>
>> > On Dec 1, 2015, at 8:40 PM, jessienewburn
>> wrote:
>> >
>> > Take note, y'all: There is a ramping up, too, of **vicitm culture** in
>> our society and a thin-skin-ification all around wherein everyone's
>> allergy, food sensitivity, mood of the day and particular needs seem to
>> mandate institutional level support to ensure non-victimhood.
>> >
>> > I *get* a thousand times over that assault ain't cool, consent is key
>> and our community, in its embracing of all, gets its share (or more than
>> its share) of people whose vibe -- and sometimes actions -- range from
>> creepy to outright criminal.
>> >
>> > I get that.
>> >
>> > I'm simply being the voice of a perspective: There has been a growing
>> cultural shift toward over-responding to anyone's hurt, or PERCEPTION of
>> hurt.
>> >
>> > Just sayin'. Beware the culture change and keep a level head.
>> >
>> > Jessie / Mama J
>> > --
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